sanctity of relationships

A week ago, i chatted with a guy from the net who was a year younger. He had an 'attractive', twinky generic body with minimal 6pax and chest. He looked young. Dosent talk much on things and likes giving one line replies.

Then i asked him about his BFs, and he said he had 3. All of them only lasted for 3 months. And he laughed at that. I told him BFs are not just for pampering. He just sent a smile emoticon. Couldnt say much. Because i hit the target: he just wants the guy to give and he dosent want to give back. And he refused to work things out but choose to break up instead.

Do people even respect relationships anymore? i mean young is one thing but using guys like condoms for the comfort and company is a whole different game alltogether. Nevermind that he's kinda empty on the inside (can be picked up by his inability to talk about things). Young isnt really an excuse to play around with people: you're never too young to learn that toying with people is wrong. If you're not up for it, reject the offers.

As gays, we tend to take relationships more lightly that our straight or lesbian counterparts. The bf is for fucking and hanging out with. The end. If he fails to perform then its time to play with the backups. Or breakup time. Although i am meeting more and more couples (that are mostly in their 40s) who are willing to work things out, almost 75% of the guys i meet are not interested in that. That is also why so many people cheat on their partners: its not important for them. Their needs are more important than their partner or the partner's feelings and they dont care if it hurts their partner deeply.

Relationships are a sacred bond between 2 people. As long as these 2 people have agreed to be with each other, the bond is formed...and its up to them to keep this bond there. Once it's damaged it is hard to repair. That is why guys who cheat on their partners will end up single for a long time, or end up with a bf that mistreats them: because they dont respect the importance and significance of the relationship. And that's sad because these people wont be happy.

Why is it that most gay guys are unwilling to think deeper in their lives? more like they are afraid to think of what is deeper than just the surface. That is why they are so attached to looks and all the superficial things but not the deeper topics such as meaning of life and aspects of philosophy and spirituality. Because, they know once they go deeper, there is nothing there for them. It's empty. And it is painful to know that below the nice pecs, 6pax, chiseled face high income, its empty. There's nothing more. and Guess what? it dosent need to be that way. Meaning can be put there, when we get a goal in life and see past the emptiness.