The top and the bottom

i love these 2 denominations of the gay community, mainly because it tells a lot about the person's personality and behaviors. There has been a really interesting sterotype that if you're a top you'll behave in a certain way, different from bottom and vice versa. I first encountered this in the spiritual organization where i was questioned by some people if i was a top or a bottom. I didint like the idea of penises inside my ass so i said top. They then said i would most probably be a bottom since i like to be served and i didint like to be independent. Well, i do like serving others and i am independent just that i could not express that at the time.

So what really makes a top a top and a bottom a bottom?

A top plays an active role in everything: the 1st to initiate, the one that would ask the waiter to service, the one that would drive, the one that is in control of the relationship actively. Real tops are people who are independent and strong willed and would usually pay for the meals and demands so. They hate being served at but dont mind the occasional one. Personality wise, the Top is always responsible and accountable, punctual and may appear to be egoistic at first but would melt down to a kind and caring heart once you get their trust. In a relationship, usually the one that would tolerate arguments and misunderstandings, as well as give more benefit of the doubt. Also the one that would be the first to talk things out. They tend to be more accommodating in everything. Tops usually derive pleasure from pleasuring others in bed, and they are very attentive to bottoms during sex, making sure that they feel good and that they're not in pain. Also the one that will cum the last.

A bottom, well is a bottom: the passive one, also the diva one. Diva guys are 99.9% bottoms even if they declare otherwise. Demanding, cold and they do require alot of pampering, talking and impressing. They'd usually look more on the body than personality and end up breaking their hearts too often. bottoms are more sensitive and require more attention and will appear to be more demanding but shy, but melts down to a soft and vulnerable personality. They're usually the ones that will do the arguing in the relationship and would most probably take over the role of the 'wife' like cooking, cleaning and washing the clothes. They would always demand their partners to initiate the peace talks and refuse to make peace until that happens. Bottoms usually care only about their own pleasure during sex and the 1st to cum.

In some instances, the top will lie to being the bottom and vice versa, maybe to trap guys of a certain personality or to appear more superior, but in reality not much difference. when a bottom tops a guy, usually no technique will be involved and the guy would be in a lot of pain, but when a top bottoms for someone, its usually for someone he cares about. So guys, if you lie about your position, it can be seen thru easily. Also, thats why i ask if you're a top or a bottom when i meet a PLU because it says quite a lot about their personalities.

What about vers guys? maybe next post, or could they be one of the really accommodating types? we'll find out in the next post. :P