Versatility

In talking about the top and bottom personalities, there has to be the 3rd option: fucked and be fucked. That's the versatile category. So far we've seen the really predictable active/passive roles, but what about a role that is both passive and active? Sex has gotta be fun with someone who can switch roles but what about personality wise? how'd they fare at that department? After all, to many normal vanilla tops and bottoms, being versatile is hard to imagine..

Versatiles are, like their name, versatile when it comes to personality. However versatiles have 2 categories: the good and the bad. this may sound cliche but versatiles are a lot more complex than a top or bottom when it comes to deciphering their personality. It all boils down to the intentions and experiences of the individual. In reality, most versatiles are of 1 orientation and are usually top but they give in due to some weird reasons, to try to bottom and they wont exactly enjoy it as it is and would usually use stimulants such as poppers to bottom. Bottoms who top are rare but i think they do exist.

the "good" versatile guys are usually (but not always) bi guys, who allowed an adventurous bf or two to top them after swallowing their ego. Or perhaps the reluctant top. Or maybe someone who's experimenting. It's even rarer for a bottom to try topping but it is possible as love conquers all. Personality wise, versatile guys are always accommodating in nature and extremely patient. You can hurl them with bags of shit and they'll still be standing. And they will not complain. They may bitch to their friends but at the end of the day will always try to swallow the shit and/or explode one day, ending the relationship abruptly. They usually end up being door mat of a dominant or egoistic partner, abused and taken advantage of and then they either swear off love or turn into the bad one. Versatile guys may not look that way but beneath their accommodating exterior lies a person who just wants acceptance and will do anything for it, which is why they're usually exploited. They're also very strong willed and stubborn, so please dont insist on your way. They may give in but they wont be happy, like how topping and bottoming is the same to them: just sexual excitement. And they do keep long, long grudges.

The bad versatile shares all of the traits of the good one, except that they're extremely manipulative, and often take advantage of whoever they can get hold of. these types tend to lie very often, but most of them are just guys who were too afraid by loneliness and tortured by it, due to a personality flaw. In the end they become bitter and desperate, either by lonliness or by being mistreated by others. Bad vers guys are versatile because they just want to have sex with whomever they trap. Tops would use poppers to bottom, and bottoms would use viagra or sexual stimulants just to be able to have sex with a younger guy or with anyone they fancy. They usually wont care about who they're having sex with, if they're hurting their sex buddy or not as long as they get pleasure. These guys are usually very manipulative, they lie a lot and are usually smooth talking and charming at first and are usually 35 and above and usually are single. They could be attractive or not attractive, but something in their personality will turn you away as you know them more. they may or may not be the type who will call everyday, but a telltale sign other than them telling you that they're versatile is that in conversations, they tend to just want to talk about themselves, and might usually be about an old incident, over and over again. When you try to interject they usually ignore....they're more fond of forcing their way, literally on people both personality wise and sexually.

I had a very scary experience with a versatile before. He's actually a top, 39, okok body. On the first meetup, he wanted to have lunch at his place. So i went. When i did he asked me to shower. I knew it was sex but well i was too horny to leave. We only agreed to have mutual masturbation. I told him i never topped anyone before. Then he got some lube out. At first he stroked my penis. When it was hard, he sat on it WITHOUT A CONDOM. I was shocked but i couldnt push him off as he was pushing me down and he was stronger than me. He'd grind his hard ass on my pelvis, causing me tremendous pain just to reach his g-spot. And that was how i topped a guy for the first time....

this is just my opinion in general of what tops, bottoms and vers are. So guys, do be careful when meeting people out there. dont let yourself be used and abused either physically or emotionally. It's possible to be PLU and not be obsessed with sex, and to lead a life like any other straight guy. You just have to stop meeting the wrong type of guys who tell you its okay to have ONS with guys and those who tend to cajole and beg for sex, or manipulate you to get emotional satisfaction on their side (but they dont care not even one bit on yours)...sure these things happen also in the str8 world, but a lesser frequency. Being PLU dosent mean you need to get manipulated or that you need to manipulate guys to be your boyfriend....