1) Ask for pictures, even when there is already one on the profile.
Pictures in profiles are actually for courtesy purposes. It gives you an idea of how the guy looks like. Dont demand for more pictures when it's the first few messages. It's very disrespectful and it shows how shallow and stupid you are to care about the looks more than the personality. Especially when you ask for topless/naked pictures. Unless you're choosing someone for a free sex session, which is better and more professionally performed when paid.
Pictures in profiles are actually for courtesy purposes. It gives you an idea of how the guy looks like. Dont demand for more pictures when it's the first few messages. It's very disrespectful and it shows how shallow and stupid you are to care about the looks more than the personality. Especially when you ask for topless/naked pictures. Unless you're choosing someone for a free sex session, which is better and more professionally performed when paid.
2) Ask for/give out phone numbers.
Dont demand for the phone number of the other guy on the 2nd or third message exchange. It's rude and it shows how cheap you are. It also makes the other guy think you are some kind of stalker. Also, be prepared to get calls in the morning from the other guy if you pass him your number without checking him out first. Or even worse, Lady Gaga's paparazzi theme song playing on the other end while you see a shadow outside the window, with the phone and a radio.
Dont demand for the phone number of the other guy on the 2nd or third message exchange. It's rude and it shows how cheap you are. It also makes the other guy think you are some kind of stalker. Also, be prepared to get calls in the morning from the other guy if you pass him your number without checking him out first. Or even worse, Lady Gaga's paparazzi theme song playing on the other end while you see a shadow outside the window, with the phone and a radio.
3) Ask questions incessantly.
Okay, please dont and never ask questions one after another. It is better to start the conversation by asking about something regarding the guy's profile, except for are you t or b?. Also if they dont respond, dont send another question as that can be annoying as hell. And especially, dont go "u there? hello? can respond?" within the next 5 minutes. Dont start asking things like what do you like to do in bed, how long is your dick, how many exes you have and what is your mother's maiden name. It just shows lack of grey matter. If you want to, do it in a more eloquent way like "My dick is 7", how long is yours? i wonder what is the average size..." If the guy dosent reply after the 2nd or 3rd message, it means he is not interested and you should move on. Dont keep messaging him. You're creeping him out.
4) Start the first few messages with one liners, or worse, one word.
Please dont message people with "hi", "hi hi," "wat u doing" "what u looking for" "fun?" or shit like that, unless you are really looking for a hookup and you dont care what that guy thinks of you. Again, the reply could be "hi" and then "hi" again, being in a neverending loop. Instead, start with "i found your profile erotic/interesting/what i am looking for so yes can we be friends/lovers/sex partners?" At least, you'd look more intelligent and sophisticated that way.
5) Beg for meetups.
One of the worst things to do is to beg the other guy to meet up with you after the first few message exchanges. Dont keep going incessantly on and on to meet up with someone. Always chat first, then phone, before the meetup to avoid disappointments. Also it is disrespectful to other people's schedule and time. And it is also very stalkerish in nature. Next thing you know you'll be googling his address and getting the cloroform...
disclaimer: I'm talking about this because its some of the few mistakes i have made and ive decided to share it. And yes its just my opinion so if you dont like it leave a comment or just dont read it. Unread the words by sticking your pretty lil head onto the monitor. If you like it, leave a comment and keep reading :p
Well, I'm sure you wrote this based on your experience chatting with guys but there are always exceptions because I know others like to ask questions and the other party doesn't mind at all as both want to know more about each other.
RépondreSupprimerAs for pictures, some guys like to exchange their nude pics with each other but some do want to see how you look like in different pictures, Who knows whether the profile picture is the real you or not, right? If you have other pictures of the same face to prove, then the other party would believe.
As for phone numbers, some wants to keep in touch via SMS or perhaps a chat if both are not online.
Err... as for point no.4, I always start with 'Hi, how are you?" or "Hi, how was your day?" or if we have chatted before, I would ask, "Hi, what are you doing now?" What's wrong with that?
I have done at least 2 of the things mentioned above in the past, and been on the receiving end of all 5.
RépondreSupprimerSometimes the brain goes on auto-pilot and we just start doing these things without much thought :P
depends on what are you searching for LOR.. if you looking for sex then do the above 5. period.
RépondreSupprimeryour post should be titled: THINGS TO DO IN A GAY DATING SITE IF YOU WANNA HAVE SEX!
i can easily dump pages of people guilty of that on me!
RépondreSupprimerCalvin: yeah there are exceptions, but in general these are meant for gay dating sites like fridae/axcest/gayromeo/grindr which you dont use anymore. To request for a pic is fine but more polite when done after the 3rd or 4th message exchange rather than on the first one. On the phone number rule, it also depends on the guy you're giving it to. More often than not you will end up with a barrage of unwanted SMSes and calls if you give it to a not so normal gay guy.
RépondreSupprimerAs for point no4, its normal to be done in MSN, but not in dating sites as it can be quite annoying :p but i do it sometimes to prod people in grindr to see if they will respond hehe.
jboy: yes we have all done these before, and been the receiving end of all 5. Guess why i am annoyed? nyahahha
tuls: omg the slut has spoken! *tabik*
takashi: i know you love it right? :P
I used to so some of them...but not now...have not been to gay social site for long...
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