En Passant

It's very, very frustrating trying to procure new PLU friends. Because unlike straight people whom you just need to have a same interest with to just be friends, PLU people seem to have a bunch more of criterias. In addition, most will always be extra vary of who they are mixing with or talking to. The entire method and chemistry to get to know another gay guy as a friend is so different from getting to know a regular person as a friend.

I'd like to meet more GLBT bloggers around and be their friends because well, it would be a lot easier to connect and be with people who understand your preference for the same gender and not discriminate or judge you unfairly with. But sadly, most PLUs tend to discriminate against other PLUs for the smallest of reasons and they never hesitate to cut off contact if you turn out to have a quirk that they dont seem to like or if you said the wrong words. It happens to straight people too but at least they're more willing to talk it out most of the time. But with many, many PLU guys, it seems that i tend to get dismissed early even before they really get to know me first.

i've sent a few emails around trying to get to know more PLU bloggers, as so far the few i know are quite intellectual by nature and interesting in personality but yeah, only those that were introduced by friends could really be friends, those whom i tried to get to know via my own initiative (emails, FB messaging) seem to assume that im trying to get to know them with an ulterior motive of sex. Well, no. Not that interested in it although i do get the hots at times but its more satisfying to stifle it than to act on it. So if you're one of the bloggers whom i sent an email to, i'd just like more people to call a friend and talk and hang out with. Sex is the lowest of priorities and i'd heavily doubt that i'd be able to do it with you which is why i said, its not the main reason. The possibility of being a sex buddy would heavily depend on many, many factors in essence because it's very close to a boyfriend.

I had 4 followers and one unfollowed me after i popped him an email :( saying that i'd like to be friends. Now that really did make me sad for a while, but then again i realize that he'd probably wont be much of a friend anyway if he cant even reply to a simple email or even give me a chance in the first place. However, in memory there has been many, many many guys who have done this to me before. Most of them are PLU but a small amount of them are (supposedly) straight guys.

What's even sadder is that most PLU guys suffer discrimination in one way or another from the straight community, and now, even their own kind is out to make their lives harder and more painful to go through by treating them like commodities either for sex and even for friendship! "guys must be of a certain requirement to be my friend, or else i'll block and i wont even let him know! I'm this high up! you're sooooooooo not worth to be my friend! i'm just sooo exclusive hmph!" I'm personally more sympathetic towards other gays who want to be my friend (not on fridae, most of those want sex) because i understand their pain and lonliness and i wont wanna turn them away because i want to be the person that can lift their lonliness.

And we often wonder why are gays discriminated. Most often its not the sexuality but the attitude that they carry just turns people off and make others view them as the scum of society. I always wonder why is it so hard to be nicer to people for some, but the frequency is sadly higher in the PLU world. While in the straight world 9 out of 10 guys would probably say hi or reply back a mail asking to be friends, 8 out of 10 gay guys would most probably NOT reply unless they saw a picture of you that looks like an american/korean/british/japanese/taiwanese hunk. Not just in fridae but even in facebook or the blogsphere. With this attitude, how would you not expect to be discriminated against?

It'll be nice to make more gay or bi friends, but how many of them would actually be kind enough to respond to a simple "hi i'd like to be your friend" email? Is it really that hard to just type an email that says "sure!" or "sorry i'm not really that interested, hope you understand" email?

*runs back into cave and sulks*